What the fuck. I don’t even know what to write after that word, number, identifier? I’m still working that out. In ways I feel like I can’t believe I’ve already lived so much of my life, on the other hand I can’t believe I didn’t live so much of my life.
My Mom is exactly 30 years older than me, it’s hard not to think of her and whether I will be where she is in 30 years…or less. Is my life half over? Then again, if I just started to really live – is it just beginning? Though it could easily turn depressive, I’ve decided overall both of these views are helping me. If this is it, I have drive and urgency to make it count. If this is just the beginning, then the best is yet to come.
- Donate clothes
- Pick up trash at a local brook
- Left a treat to thank the mailman (and apologize -I suck at getting my mail in a timely fashion)
- Brought flowers to a very hardworking receptionist
- Left suckers in the elevator to sweeten up people’s Monday
- Left a happy face stress ball in waiting room
- Left change at the parking meters
- Donated to a Child’s fund
- Passed out happy face balloons at the park (My nephew was an awesome side kick)
- Hid bubbles at the park (again, Thank you for your help buddy!)
- Paid for the person behind me in the Tims’ drive through
- Left a Tim’s card on a car in the parking garage
- Brought donuts to work for all of my amazing coworkers
- Left a box of wipes on a change table in a public restroom
- Brought cupcakes to the employees at my favourite Starbucks
- Left chocolate at an office of very hardworking awesome people
- Donated food to the foodbank
- Bought a friend a hot chocolate while we sat and caught up
- Brought flowers to the receptionist at my Doctor’s office
- Gave candy to Tim Horton employees who are always so nice even when crazy busy
- Gave a balloon to a special kiddo
- Helped a lady with her bags at Park n’ Fly (2 suitcases + coffee = need 3 arms!)
- Donated to a Monk downtown Toronto (and was given bead bracelets!)
- Gave a taxi driver a big tip
- Picked up the dirty towels in pool area at closing time
- Gave a sticker activity to a child on the plane
- Chased people down to give them their thermos they forgot on the plane
- Donated to Mocean Dance so they can share their gifts with even more people
- Gave money to a homeless man
- Gave treat bags to everyone at dance class! (Thanks for the birthday lift 😉 )
It was a busy, and extremely fun, week. I wanted to make my birthday less about facing the fact that there’s no way to avoid that I’m now a full-on adult (except at the liquor store of course..this hasn’t improved, in fact I think it’s worse because now my age is too high they are convinced it’s a fake ID :P), and more about spreading kindness and being silly! I may have been doing things for others, but I honestly feel like I got more out of it than I gave. Even on my bad days RAKing was an instant mood booster. It warmed my heart every time I was able to contribute, even in the smallest ways. I learned a few lessons while doing this challenge; I was reminded how many people in my life I am grateful for and how I may not show my appreciation to them as often as I want to, the creative fun acts made me more aware of my desire for more silliness in my life that I often ignore or suppress, and by having the intention of RAKing it changed my mindset throughout my day- I was actively looking for ways I could contribute or help others, and it was neat to see how this intention presented more opportunities. I was thinking today how I’m sad that it’s over.. And then I realized, it doesn’t have to be. I may not be able to continue at this pace, but I am committed to keep the mindset of actively looking for ways and opportunities to contribute. I’ve decided to make “complete a random act of kindness” a weekly goal.
Another way I celebrated my birthday was asking for presents. I know, I know..how selfish right? I requested that, as a birthday present, everyone do 1 random act of kindness and 1 act of self care. The response I received from people blew me away. I was so touched that people took part and I absolutely loved hearing about the ways people were spreading the love to themselves and others. Inspiring and heartwarming. It has given me so much joy and made my birthday so special; I am full of gratitude for everyone who made my birthday wishes come true.
As a thank you I had promised those who gave me these wonderful gifts that I would thank them while leaning off the top of the CN Tower. 356 meters up. I’m happy to say I kept my promise, but it was NOT easy. In fact, it was downright terrifying. My legs were shaking uncontrollably and waves of panic hit me every few minutes. There were times I honestly thought I wouldn’t be able to continue, that I was going to get sick or faint. I hadn’t realized before signing up that you don’t get to pick how long you stay out there, you are actually out there for 30 minutes walking around the entire building and doing various leans. My hands are getting clammy now just writing about it. I had quite a bit of practice urge surfing while out there though; letting the panic come and riding it until it lessened. I didn’t try to fight the response my body was (rightfully) having to being so high off the ground. I just let it come and “go”. I noticed that I even had a few moments of calm out there! They didn’t last long, and the panic continued to come back until the end, but it was neat to know that it was possible.
It would have been nice if there was more calmness and less intense panic during this experience; however, bottom line – I DID IT! Despite the panic, despite the difficulty, despite the thoughts and body sensations. Much like daily life, I wish there was more calmness and less panic to deal with; however, I can face challenges head on – even with that panic in tow. I don’t have to let the panic control what I do and don’t do. I can purposely push past my comfort zone and prove to myself just how strong and determined I am. Whether it’s the CN Tower or life in general – I can CONQUER it, even with shaking legs.
I may not have this whole 30 year old thing figured out yet. What I do know is that I am committed to LIVE the rest of my life, however long that is.
Dragons fly. They are free. They spread their wings proudly, soar, and when needed – breathe fire.
Here I come, thirty! Age of the dragon.